Resources for Serious IssuesAcademic Difficulty
Is your roommate sleeping through classes? Does she put homework aside whenever a social opportunity arises? Or is she obsessed with grades, getting very upset if she does poorly on a project? You can encourage her and point things out yet, your campus learning assistance center, advisers, and others may be better equipped to help solve these academic difficulties.
Alcohol or Drugs
You may have noticed your roommate coming in late on multiple occasions. Does she hang out with a new set of friends? Has she become more promiscuous? Does she appear to be in an altered state at different times during the day? Have you seen alcohol or other drug paraphernalia in the room? It is tough thinking about "turning in" your own roommate. One approach is to go to her with your concerns. This allows her to make the choice. If she's addicted, however, your words may be falling on deaf ears. Ask the counseling center, the residence life staff or health services for advice.
Does your roommate sleep a lot during the day? Has she dropped some of her friends and involvements? Does she cry frequently? Has she made mention of harming herself? These and other symptoms may be signs of depression. You are way out of your league here and trying to take on the problems of a depressed roommate not only prevents her from getting adequate care, it also drags you down. Appeal to residence life personnel and the counseling center for help. You can't do this on your own!
Does your roommate dread going home during breaks? Has she confided in you about family abuse? Do you overhear fights on the phone? It can be easy to get entrenched in your roommate's family difficulties and attempting to do so will make things worse for everyone involved, including yourself! Consult with residence life staff and the counseling center for assistance. And don't ever call your roommate's family in an attempt to "fix" things-this is definitely overstepping your boundaries.